{"id":1037,"date":"2021-02-17T11:18:49","date_gmt":"2021-02-17T11:18:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dev.twentytwo.digital\/ukbodytalk\/keep-control-of-vitrtual-meetings\/"},"modified":"2025-07-14T17:29:01","modified_gmt":"2025-07-14T16:29:01","slug":"keep-control-of-vitrtual-meetings","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dev.twentytwo.digital\/ukbodytalk\/resources\/blogs\/keep-control-of-vitrtual-meetings\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Ways To Keep Control In Virtual Meetings"},"content":{"rendered":"

“When someone feels genuinely listened to you reset the conversation.”<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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5 Ways To Keep Control In Virtual Meetings<\/span><\/h2>\n

A viral sensation, the video from Handforth Parish Council\u2019s meeting<\/strong><\/a> has dropped a meme likely to remain topical for years to come.<\/p>\n

Millions of us watched aghast at the squabbling Cheshire councillors until calm and composed clerk, Jackie Weaver, ordered the irate chairperson from the Zoom meeting (followed by the vice-chair who stormed off his sofa in solidarity).<\/p>\n

With the two main antagonists removed, the meeting resumed at a more modest tempo, with a polite, collaborative ambience now settling over the call.<\/p>\n

Speaking to LBC<\/a><\/strong>, Jackie made no bones about how good it felt to stand up for herself, noting, \u201cThe councillors were absolutely out of order\u2019\u2019.<\/p>\n

She went on, speaking to the aggression obvious as the meeting began, saying: \u201cI think there\u2019s a couple of things. This has gone on in Handforth for some period of time, and I think people were very frustrated.\u00a0 But I guess the more serious point, having listened to it being replayed once or twice since, I kind of feel that an underlying part of it was they didn\u2019t like being told no by a woman.\u201d<\/p>\n

Astonishing, isn\u2019t it? And not so unusual. Many of us will have sat through business webinars where the person with the loudest voice dominates the conversation or where heated points of view mean it becomes impossible to find a way through.<\/p>\n

By now, you\u2019re probably wondering how you might have handled the emotionally charged Parish Council meeting and what it takes to run a meeting where no one voice dominates and where everyone feels comfortable speaking up.<\/p>\n

How\u2019s that possible? Here are 5 ways to keep control of virtual meetings:<\/p>\n

SET EXPECTATIONS<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Agree on etiquette and behaviour at the start of your meeting. Ask everyone to keep their microphone muted on a virtual platform and use the chatbox to raise questions. Link the behaviour you want from them to a benefit for them. Try saying, \u201cWe\u2019ll have a more productive and efficient meeting if we don\u2019t talk over each other, and this way, we can allow everyone to be heard.\u201d This is the important bit: Get everyone to agree. In his book \u2018Pre-Suasion\u2019 Robert Cialdini described 6 principles of persuasion, one being consensus; people will look to the actions and behaviours of others to determine their own. Simply put, if everyone agrees on the behaviours and etiquette, they are more likely to demonstrate them.<\/p>\n

SHOW EMPATHY\u00a0<\/strong><\/h3>\n

When met with a challenging question, many people respond defensively – witness the head-butting chaos of the Handforth Zoom meeting. The point is you need to take a breath and allow yourself some time to understand the question and clear some thinking space. You can do this by being empathic. To be clear, empathy doesn\u2019t mean you agree with the other person; what it means is putting yourself into their shoes – their mindset perhaps – to see things from their perspective. A terrific way to do this is by asking some open questions using the T.E.D acronym.<\/p>\n

\u2018TELL<\/strong> me why you feel that way?\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018EXPLAIN<\/strong> the situation you\u2019re in at the moment?\u2019<\/p>\n

\u2018DESCRIBE<\/strong> some of the impacts for your team?\u2019<\/p>\n

Consider this: When someone feels genuinely listened to<\/a>, <\/strong>you reset the conversation, turning down the heat and creating the conditions for a productive conversation without the emotional undertone.<\/p>\n

LISTEN<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Previous blogs have highlighted the importance of listening. I\u2019m going to do the same here. And when I talk about listening, I don\u2019t mean pretending to listen – you know, nodding your head, but really thinking about what you want to say next. The secret is to listen with the intent to understand. To unpack that a little, I mean you are listening empathically, looking to find a response that shines more light, and less heat, on the topic.<\/p>\n

WHO ARE YOU? <\/strong><\/h3>\n

In a moment, I\u2019m going to tell you why you need to be more like Yoda than Luke (or Dumbledore than Harry Potter). The simple truth is we\u2019re all characters in our business story, and most of us think of ourselves as the problem solver, the hero, here to save the day. Surprisingly, it turns out this \u201cMe-Hero\u201d approach is plain wrong. Here\u2019s why. If you make yourself the hero, who is your audience? The villain? Underdog? Sidekick? Instead, make your audience the hero with your role being the mentor, to take them on the journey which gets them to where they want to be. Be Like Mr Miyagi in the Karate Kid because when people are supported and encouraged, they are motivated and empowered to take on anything.<\/p>\n

STAY IN CONTROL OF THE VIRTUAL MEETING<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Do you know how you can feel your mind beginning to race away when things start getting lively? Don\u2019t be that person, be the voice of calm. The trick is to slow the pace of your speech down – slower and more deliberate -, use lower vocal tones, keep gestures firm and measured while maintaining good eye contact.<\/p>\n

One last thing before I finish. I want to mention the alternative practical approach to dealing with troublesome Zoom attendees. Jackie Weaver knows this approach. To be clear, I\u2019m no expert around the rules of Parish Meetings, so I can\u2019t say whether Jackie had authority or not, but what she did have was the ability to stay calm and, when all else failed, deployed a simple plan, well-executed – the pressing of the Zoom eject button!<\/p>\n

Would you like to improve your presentation skills or virtual communication? Our online courses will help increase your presence and impact in a virtual environment, plus we\u2019ll share strategies to keep your audience engaged and committed. Find out more here<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/article>\n<\/section>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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